I’ve attended many concerts where I felt let down and I was wishing it would be something else. Not that it’s their duty to please me, but at the same time, I think a lot about what it’s like through the eyes of the consumer, the fan. I want not to pander to the audience, but to be aware of them.Trent Reznor
How many people did you please today? I’m hoping the number outweighs the sum of people that you let down. Each morning I awaken with the goal of placing my best foot forward by being mindful and empathetic. Each minute of each day ticking by as we head towards our end.
Focusing in the moment we attempt to prioritize others while we maintain complacency in our priorities. Relationships require us to give and take to feel complete and whole. Our best way to take is by taking the words and emotions of others and understand their perspective.
As we identify with the other person we can attempt to feel how they feel. Often our understanding needs to be based on perspectives that are impossible for us to understand. Gender, race, ethnicity and financial situations are difficult traits to learn perspective. When we place ourselves into what we believe to be the other’s perspective often we’ll miss the reality of a situation.
Falling into love with ideas and ideals is disastrous. Reality is paramount in accessing and proper function of a long-living relationship. By being supportive and genuine in other people’s successes and failures we build an impenetrable bond. Sharing in the riches of the fortunes of our relationships we build ourselves up together and grow.
The bitter taste of jealousy by a self-centered relationship becomes a toxic chemical cocktail that poisons relationships. If we focus on our insecurities by turning them outward, we can spoil an otherwise nurturing connection. We can not rely on others to make us happy while we shouldn’t need to rely on others to create ours.
The Big Let Down
When we recognize the negativity exhibited towards us in a tainted relationship generally has little to do with us directly we can begin to focus on the issues. People will want others to create their happiness and fulfillment without recognizing it’s the power of connection and give and take that develops solid bonds.
If you spend your life waiting for that perfect person to please your chances are you’re on a path to the big let down. The best advice in relationships is honesty and being forthcoming with your feelings and emotions. The power of the bond will elevate the relationship to a higher level of connection and development.